So you're tired of being alone and tired of being rejected? Tired of asking women for their phone numbers and being given "1-800-Get-Lost"?

If you truly want to get more phone numbers and more dates, then you have to make a change in how you approach the whole dating thing. It's not that you've been a failure; it's just that your past techniques haven't worked very well for you.

In fact, I want you to banish the word "failure" from your vocabulary. It's more that you haven't known the best approach for successfully getting a woman's phone number ... until now.

I am going to show you the best and most successful methods for getting phone numbers from women in a way that will flatter and charm them like never before. Here are my top five tips.

1. Be non-threatening.

The first and foremost thing I want you to remember is that you want to come across as non-threatening and casual.

You need to take your time to demonstrate that you are truly interested in the young lady that you have just met, and make sure that she is interested in you before you ask her out again or ask for her phone number.

This isn't as hard as you might think. If she's been giving you subtle hints that she isn't interested, then you can save yourself and her a lot of embarrassment by not asking for her phone number. In addition, you don't want to come across as a desperate stalker. Women are scared of desperate men, and nothing spells desperation faster than a man who aggressively asks for a number or a date.

If she's not open to sharing her number, consider agreeing to meet at the same place again at a designated time. This meeting will give you a chance to see each other again, but in a non-threatening way. This way you have indicated your interest without coming across as pushy, and you have left the chance of a meeting in her hands.

By the way, if you think that giving a woman your phone number is sure to keep you in contact, you're wrong. Women have been trained to wait for men to call them, not the other way around. If you give her your number, she'll think that you're not keen, and there's no way she'll make the first move. Either get her number or maximize your chances of bumping into her again by asking if she's going to be here again next weekend, or something to that effect.

2. Have real conversation.

The second point I want you to consider is that having a real conversation about something she is interested in will build her interest in you. I mean, consider this. Why would she want to give you her number if she has no reason to even want to talk to you?

Make conversation according to where you've met her, such as the club, a bar, a bookstore, or a restaurant. Tailor your conversation to fit the surroundings. For example, if you met her at the bookstore, you might want to talk about a good book you have read recently. If you are at a club, you might talk about your favorite clubs or favorite music.

If this is a person you would like to talk to and get to know better, you need treat the situation accordingly. Be open and honest with her about some quality that you admire and steer clear of goofy pickup lines. Pickup lines hardly EVER work. In fact, they often provide a woman with a convenient excuse to reject you.

3. Ask for her email.

Yes, I'm totally and completely serious about this one. It works for two reasons.

For one, it's non-threatening, which, as we mentioned before, is important. If a girl gets your email and decides later that she doesn't really want to talk to you, she can just ignore any incoming messages. This gives her a sense of security, so she'll be more willing to give it to you.

The other reason why this method works is because it will often lead to you getting her phone number as well. Here's how it works:

You ask for her email and she says yes. Then, as she is writing down her email address, you say, "By the way, can you jot your number down, too?" Most times she will write her number on the paper, too. It's psychological: she has already said yes to writing down her email, so it just seems logical to add the phone number.

4. Be prepared.

Just like the Scout motto, you should always be prepared. If you want to get phone numbers, then you need to have a way of remembering them.

You can carry a pen and paper with you, or you may choose to enter numbers directly in your cell phone or Palm Pilot. Either way, you should always have something with you. Since most people have cell phones nowadays, I would recommend that you use your cell phone.

However, if you do carry a pen and paper, think of getting something classy that women will remark on. If you carry a broken stub and a piece of paper that's been scribbled on and folded up, you'll give her the impression that you're a slob. A pocket notebook in a single, bold color (avoid any cover with an image, like those with cars or sexy women on them) is good. An expensive pen will also impress her.

Make sure that you are always open to opportunities to ask a girl for her number. You may miss these opportunities if you are not prepared and paying attention. A lot of guys spend a whole evening talking to a woman in a bar, then when she excuses herself to go to the bathroom, they never see her again. Get her number before she leaves. It sounds simple, but a lot of guys forget.

5. Just do it.

Don't be embarrassed if you're nervous. We've all got a fear of rejection that holds us back when it comes to asking for dates and numbers. My best advice is to just get out there and do it. What's the worst that can happen? You might get told no. So what? A few women will turn down even the best player out there, but you will still have a better chance than if you never asked anyone.

It's not rocket science. If you want more numbers, start asking for more numbers! Most women like to be asked for their phone number anyway. They see it as a compliment. So if you think of it that way, you are increasing your chances of a date as well as making someone's day. Sounds great, huh?

In addition, here are a few more tips that you may find useful.

As you are writing down her number, ask her to repeat it. Not only will this keep you from writing down the wrong number, but it will clue you in if she is giving you the wrong number. For instance, if she stumbles or gives you a different number than the first one, you know she is giving you a phony number, and you can simply not bother to call.

When you're talking to her, make eye contact, smile, and act interested. This will prove to her that you are indeed interested in pursuing a relationship and that you want to take things a step further.

Remember to keep the eye contact subtle. If you leer at her, she will get frightened. Also, try and be genuine. As I have said before, women respond well to genuine men.

Keep alert to her body language. If you really pay attention, you can tell if she's interested or if she's waiting for an opportunity to get away from you. If she keeps looking at her watch or looks at her friends with a bored look on her face, it's pretty likely that she's simply not interested. If that's the case, simply move on and look for someone else. There are plenty of other women out there that are more deserving of your attention.

Getting numbers and more dates isn't that hard if you have the right attitude. It's mostly a case of having the courage to approach a woman. If you can do that, you are half way there. It just takes patience and a little planning.

You should use the times that women turn you down as feedback to adjust your game. Remember: you can't win if you don't play. So keep collecting those numbers, because your dream girl is only a phone call away.

Just take your courage in your hands and ask!

Warm regards,

Matthew Whiting

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About the author:

Matthew Whiting is a professional writer specializing in dating and relationship advice. He has extensive experience in training men to maximize their seduction potential and ability to interact with women successfully. He is considered by many to be an expert in his field with his frank and forthright approach. He is best known for his work in "How to Be Irresistible to Women," which is part of the 000Relationships network.

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