For some, the thrill of seduction lies in the chase rather than the conquest. The excitement of wanting and pursuing someone can give a sense of satisfaction in itself. For others, it's the knowledge that another persons sexual attentions are focused on them that gives that electric thrill. Those who thoroughly enjoy the chase are generally people with plenty of self-confidence. Their belief in themselves increases the likelihood of success.

Those who are less self-confident usually find seduction far more difficult. How can you convince a member of the opposite sex to believe in you if they look upon yourself as being unattractive? It's important that you choose the right person to seduce. This is more a matter of instinct than anything else, but most of us endeavour to make conversation, or at least some eye contact, with a potential partner who we consider to be about as attractive as we feel we are.

Once you've sought out your 'prey', you have to decide whether the time and/or situation is right for seduction. If the object of your passion is somebody you see on a regular basis, the time/place being wrong may very well add to the thrill. If you're getting the right feedback, the knowledge that the other person is interested but that you can't do anything about it just yet can increase the feelings of arousal and excitement.

But how do you know that she's interested? The best clues come from reading body language. Non-verbal signals are far better indicators of how a person feels about you than anything they may actually say verbally. Those with an open posture are usually more available than those who stand with their arms crossed. The eyes are the biggest give-away when it comes to seduction. If she returns your gaze, and especially if she holds eye contact with you longer than you'd normally expect, then chances are you're on to a winner. Trust your instincts. You'll 'feel' whether she's interested or not. Small gestures and tone of voice tell us a lot about how the other person feels about us.

Flirt. Did I really need to mention that? Flirting is used in two ways. We flirt with others to remind our partner that we still need to be wooed by her, but when used for seduction, it's a means of keeping the other person interested and aroused, as well as letting them know that they are unlikely to be rejected.

Once you've made contact with her, you'll need to let her know where the encounter is likely to be heading. People have very different ideas of what sex should be, so it's important that you both know that you're looking for the same things. People typically discuss sex in a light-hearted, abstract manner when accessing a potential partner, testing each other in a non-committal way.

Now that you're speaking, you have to sustain her interest. Two people who may have been attracted to each other visually, may not have the right chemistry to move along the road of seduction once mouths have been opened. Look for signs of acceptance or rejection. If you pick up on any signs of rejection, don't waste your time on something that is very unlikely to happen, no matter how much you want her.

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